Relationship Problems : How to Fix it

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In my last post I explained the meaning of a relationship and even the types. So just in case you missed it am going to drop a link so you can go back and read it.

Read: Definition of a Relationship

Most people that are in a relationship suffer a lot as a result of different misunderstandings between each other.

But unfortunately for them they don't realise what the problem is and even how to fix it. So am going to give a few problems that is bound or might occur in a relationship.

• Communication:

Most relationship problems begins from the lack of communication or poor communication. What actually brings about the problem of bad communication among two people in a relationship is the modern day technological advancement around the world. Couples now spend their time operating cell phones or watching movies or doing something that is rather irrelevant at that moment.

Some problem-solving strategies:
➡ If you both are together, put off your cell phones, tuck the kids in and say goodnight to them (you can see even read them bed-time stories). If both of you can't talk to each other or communicate with each other without screaming, just go to a public place like a restaurant where people will be able to mock you if you shout unnecessarily.

➡Always try your best to see that you don't interrupt your spouse or partner when he/she is talking. Try setting up some rules for yourself. And also avoid the use of harsh words or ban phrases like " Fool " or " You never....  "

➡Show the person that you are listening with your body language. Don't pick your nails or do something distracting when the person is talking. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.

• Unfaithfulness and Infidelity:

This includes emotional infidelity, internet relationships, long and short-term affairs and financial infidelity.
This affects the ladies alot as they tend to feel jealous when their "man" shows signs that they are cheating on them. Don't get me wrong, I said it is prominent in ladies doesn't mean I said it doesn't affect the men too. Most of the times, guys just take the matter to a whole different level. Although, 70% of the jealousy comes from the ladies but men also get jealous when their spouse or girlfriend talks to guys a lot or even hang around with guys.

Some problem-solving strategies:
➡ Jealousy is definitely inevitable in a relationship. But try as much as possible to avoid it because it has destroyed so many relationships in the world.

➡ Always believe and trust your partner in all situations. Like I said before, relationship must also be based on trust. Don't always feel your partner is cheating on you because he/she doesn't like spending time with you or is always discussing with the opposite sex.

• Money:

The issue of money can even begin far before their wedding vows are exchanged on the altar. Couples should always put their mind of how their future is going to be better and how they are going to cope when they get married. After marriage, they should both sit down and have a serious conversation about their financial future.

Some problem-solving strategies:
👉Don't always be deceitful in this aspect. Open up on your current financial situation. If things has gone out of hand, then continuing this same way of life is unrealistic. Don't ever discuss your financial situation when you are in crisis in the home.

👉Always acknowledge the fact that your partner is a great saver or a one-way spender. Don't be angry that your partner doesn't release much because he/she is a saver or lavishes money because he/she is a one-way spender.

👉Never hide your income or your debts from your spouse. Always try and present your income to your partner so that both of you can out heads together and create a budget for the family that will include savings. Decide the person who would pay the different bills in the home. Your debts are also your partners debt so both couple should try as much as possible to try helping each other out in the case of debts

• Sex:

Couples who love each other so much can be a mismatch when it comes to sex. The lack of sex education and enlightenment is always a problem in a relationship.Healthy sex brings partners together and helps them connect both physically and mentally. It helps in release of their hormones which keeps couples relationship healthy and most times long lasting.

This article on "Relationship Problems : How to Fix it" is really self-explanatory and I want you to just keep reading and look for the problem that is in your current relationship and look at the remedies given.

Some problem-solving strategies:
👉Always make plans to be together. You should try as much as possible not to fix your appointments at night when both of you are stressed up, feeling tired and sleepy. You can make it during the baby's afternoon noon nap. Or instead call your parents or siblings to come and take the kids for the weekend so that you guys can spend quality time together. It can be done anywhere, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the dining room or even before going to work in the morning.

👉Both partners should discover what turns them on. They should write it on paper and draft it into a list called the SEX LIST. Then both of them should exchange lists and learn what turns them on.

But if this article on " Relationship Problems : How to Fix it " doesn't help you, then both you and your partner should pay a visit to a sex therapist to sort things out for you.

• Home Chores:

Most couples work outside doing different jobs sometimes more than one and coming back to face all the house chores could be a problem. Both partners should endeavor to partake in house chores so as to lessen the work load of the other mostly the woman.

Some problem-solving strategies:
👉Always try to be fair and organized. Respect your partners House chore. Chores should be divided fairly.

👉Both of you should be open to other ideas or solutions. If both partners hate house chores, then it is only fair to employ the services of a maid or cleaner. But if one of you likes housework, then the other should clean the yard and even do the laundry. Make sure to do what seems fair and just.